tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123027.post4839690254268390907..comments2023-10-05T09:56:38.656-04:00Comments on Rae's Confessions: If ain't one thing, it's another ...Raehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13352920897908430774noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123027.post-40151775310034221712008-06-18T08:45:00.000-04:002008-06-18T08:45:00.000-04:00Reminds me of that Gopher game, where you whack on...Reminds me of that Gopher game, where you whack one on the head into his hole, and another pops up, and you are left there just looking for the next head to rear itself.<BR/><BR/>But rather than chase heads, get under the ground. Whatever addictive or maladaptive behavior is arising, the base question is probably a single one: What is the driver?<BR/><BR/>Focus on the driver - why is the engine revving up all these things - and you will have your project defined. Something in your psyche is grinding away, processing, getting somewhere that is scaring itself, and it wants a diversion, and is making them. Instead of chasing the diversions (this is not meant to say do not work your programs) seek what is fueling this need for diversion. <BR/><BR/>Think systemic. Like a colony of ants - get under the ground and deal with the queen. If you extinguish her, you got the source, and all the others will eventually die out, and it will be quiet, and not re-emerging. <BR/><BR/>That's the holy grail, that we all need to find.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your note; I'm doing fine, just been really busy, more than I had anticipated.<BR/><BR/>Sending encouragement your way...<BR/><BR/>TTThe Travelerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15210504927555433274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123027.post-19956264984544558522008-06-18T08:35:00.000-04:002008-06-18T08:35:00.000-04:00I agree with "thegentlepath". I have also often w...I agree with "thegentlepath". I have also often wondered why some people just swap one addiction for another. (My mother fell into that category, on the few occasions she tried to stop smoking she would either start drinking or eating more.)<BR/><BR/>I don't *think* I have a secondary addiction (perhaps I am kidding myself) .... but perhaps that is part of my problem -- junk food is my crutch because I don't have *any* other crutches to replace it if I start eating healthily?<BR/><BR/>(Excess alcohol, fags and sex just don't appeal to my inner demon psyche -- only food!)<BR/><BR/>However, please please TRY to clear the junk, Rae -- please try to find a solution -- you obviously know what the problem is.<BR/><BR/>Best wishes,<BR/>SharonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123027.post-12147920615742838312008-06-17T20:02:00.000-04:002008-06-17T20:02:00.000-04:00It doesn't seem fair. One addiction ought to be en...It doesn't seem fair. One addiction ought to be enough.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com