tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123027.post2673734450043440582..comments2023-10-05T09:56:38.656-04:00Comments on Rae's Confessions: Upon seeing what others seeRaehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13352920897908430774noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123027.post-3516767468155205192009-09-10T21:07:23.800-04:002009-09-10T21:07:23.800-04:00I just read your post, and I'm wondering, is t...I just read your post, and I'm wondering, is that what your friends see? Is that how they think of you? I've gained weight (a lot) since coming into recovery. Also, the last few years of using took a physical toll. So I'm old and fat. But I don't think people see me that way. At least, they don't treat me that way. Photographs are startling to me, but I have to remind myself they aren't real. Give yourself a break.the other cjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14587140850392646760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123027.post-33502913994162870452009-09-07T17:28:33.143-04:002009-09-07T17:28:33.143-04:00P.S. Think about why your friend would want to tak...P.S. Think about why your friend would want to take pictures with you in the first place--to capture some beautiful moments spent with a special person, and then to relive those moments by sharing them again with you. If she saw you the way you described, she wouldn't have taken the pictures or shared them with you. She's seeing something very different and much more accurate. <br /><br />Ok, now I'm stepping down off my soapbox. :)MargauxMeadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12825471511010339716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123027.post-18539368927078549562009-09-07T17:13:55.502-04:002009-09-07T17:13:55.502-04:00Rae, I agree that you're being hard on yoursel...Rae, I agree that you're being hard on yourself. I highly doubt others look at you and see what you're describing. And, if they do, they have their own serious issues with objectification. I've never seen you with my eyes, but I SEE you here as an incredibly beautiful person. I have a hard time believing that that doesn't shine through to most people who are in your physical presence.MargauxMeadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12825471511010339716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123027.post-31588247672105094112009-09-06T10:43:21.429-04:002009-09-06T10:43:21.429-04:00Rae, I am learning, although hard, to focus my rag...Rae, I am learning, although hard, to focus my rage anger on the appropriate person(s) that abused me and not myself. I hear you dear one.....Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123027.post-20268724334460357222009-09-05T13:49:52.663-04:002009-09-05T13:49:52.663-04:00HI Rae,
Ouch, seeing the truth is always hard. I ...HI Rae,<br /><br />Ouch, seeing the truth is always hard. I saw a picture of myself recently that I wasn't happy with either.<br /><br />But I have to say, it sounds to me like you're being really hard on yourself. Can you try to be kind to yourself about it? I mean, pounds come off, eventually and you're also going through a lot. And you understand how and why it happened. Talking about yourself in such a cruel way isn't going to help you in the end.<br /><br />(hugs!)Bernadinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05551640226103805937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7123027.post-88631587547148511102009-09-05T05:08:11.609-04:002009-09-05T05:08:11.609-04:00I was thinking a similar thing to your other comme...I was thinking a similar thing to your other commenter who said maybe you needed to express your rage against those who had harmed you. When you wrote that you had such unfathomable, enormous pain that you weren't expressing, I thought: what would happen if you did allow yourself to feel the full force of it?<br /><br />I did a similar excercise myself, and I have to say, it sucked. But I didn't explode into a million shards like I thought I would. <br /><br />It's also not something I'd do on a regular basis. But it's good for me to know it won't break me.Judithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16354890444410748967noreply@blogger.com